Do you find it hard to celebrate your successes or yourself? Do you hold yourself to unrealistic goals and standards? Do you feel like a failure, afraid that others will find out?
Perfectionism may be positive in that it drives people to set high goals, have high standards, and to be their best. However, the following are negative characteristics of perfectionism:
- Unrealistic expectations of oneself and others
- All-or-nothing thinking, where anything less than perfect is failure
- Fear of failure
- Procrastinating until it can be done perfectly
- Highly critical of oneself and others
- Depressed over goals that haven’t been met
- Low self-esteem and self-worth because one can’t live by the high standards they set for themselves
If you can relate to any of this, let’s talk. We can explore what may be causing perfectionism in your life – anything from a fear of disapproval, feeling insecure or inadequate, seeing your peers achieve what you haven’t on social media, to demanding parents with unrealistic expectations who didn’t meet your needs as a child. You can experience what it means to be kind to yourself, talk positively to yourself, and accept the imperfections of yourself and others.
If you’re ready to shed the burden of perfectionism and live in peace, then please click on the button below for your next steps.